Monday, January 22, 2018

I'm getting married

Well, obviously there is more to it than that, but I have been absent from here because I've been busy with a relationship!

Starting at the beginning, I decided in March of 2017 (on my 29th birthday) that I was tired of being afraid. My chosen word for 2017 was "brave". I had come to realize that I let fear hold me back from so many things. I'd wanted to do a photo shoot forever, but I kept putting it off waiting to lose weight and for the hyper-pigmentation on my face to fade. NO MORE! In April I stopped putting it off and booked a session with an amazing creative Mary Fehr. I also wrote down a bunch of goals for the year that I had no real excuse for not doing. In many ways, this was the beginning of my real efforts to live out my word of the year.

Around May a friend got in touch with me about a great guy she knew that was single for no discernible reason (okay, he was in college full time and working full time, but still.) She asked if I knew anyone that might be interested. I told her I'd look around, I did, and who I found wasn't a good match. My Nana suggested I tell my friend I'd talk to him. At first I balked, but then I remembered my "brave" word --that always happened at the most inopportune times-and I agreed to talk to him.

He called me Saturday evening May 20th.
First, we made sure we were on the same page:
"No expectations, let's see if we connect."
Five hours later we figured we'd connected enough, he'd been completely enthusiastic about the photo session I was doing the next day too, which I hadn't expect him to really "get". I woke up the next morning freaking out, between getting pictures done when I am the complete opposite of a model (and prefer being behind the camera) and meeting this guy that I liked already even though I was happily single...It was pretty much mind-blowing.

The following four weeks we managed to talk on the phone every single day. I fought the process a lot at first, and he was so gentle and patient with me. My relationships in the past had been short on encouragement and kindness and long on control and changing me. This guy that liked me just the way I was scared me! Weird, huh?

 A month later he flew into Atlanta to meet me, I was crazy nervous, but meeting him was like coming home. I'd been warned about the awkwardness, but there was none of that...We were already close from hours of deep conversation by that point! After he left, I had to learn to trust God all over again because as long as I hadn't seen him in person it was easy to feel like my life would never change. I didn't have to make any decisions about being away from my favorite people. Meeting him face-to-face planted the idea in my mind that I'd be making that decision, and sooner rather than later.

Fast forward to September 16th, I went to Ohio with my mom to meet his family and celebrate his birthday, and while I was there he asked me to marry him. I said yes without hesitation, and on March 3rd we will be getting married! Along with the excitement of wedding planning, I've slowly and steadily been working on my new business that I'm really enjoying! You can check out my new website HERE and my new blog HERE.


Monday, March 6, 2017

Visions of grandeur and homeschool reality

I'm a night owl. I get a burst of energy at night similar to a hamster. 
Now that I think about it, maybe that's why I liked having hamsters so much as a kid. 

Anyway, what I also have, are visions of grandeur. Big plans. Confidence in success. All mostly at night! I go to sleep with my mind racing with all the wonderful ideas of things that will get done. I'll wake up with the birds and get Monnie and Nece started on their schoolwork pronto, and when they finish after an hour of committed work (yes, my unrealistic expectations do include them too), we'll start on all the creative and extra-curricular work! 

What really happens is that I wake up at 8 AM tired and drowsy from falling asleep at around 2 AM. I'm not a morning person, so I doze back off and get up at around 9. By this time, the girls are already doing their schoolwork-more or less-in between talking and arguing intermittently. I realize I have to run some grown-up errands, and so I head out with instructions for them to really concentrate and finish (because I'm still kinda excited about last nights plans.) I start looking for my shoes, and it takes 30 minutes, because I can never find my shoes...And when I find them in Monnie's room I'm very upset at the wasted time. In dire need of the coffee that I'd planned to pick up while I'm out, and the "hungry Elisabeth" attitude I fuss at my younger sister who has the annoying habit of looking at me blankly when I'm instructing her. I leave the house grouchy, turning on Christian radio in the car hoping some Jesus time is all I need. 

I feel better when I get back home an hour later, but the girls are still doing their schoolwork with minimal progress! They're requesting to listen to audio books while they work (like I ever say yes,) and slouching in their chairs. Someone help me! I'm quickly losing my creative drive already! So I let them know I'm not in the mood to wait forever, and sit down to post a blog, because sometimes the best idea is to change your plan if it's not working. 

What shall we do today? Nece is learning about reflected lights and lenses and things in her science so I was planning on some flat lays. It may take a little longer, but I sure hope we get to it!

Thursday, March 2, 2017

Working out and acne

So FYI, I finally bit the bullet and started back working out. I just finished up my third week! 
Oh my gosh. It was harder than I thought.
Just a little more information than anyone ever probably wants to know, (so skip this part if you want) but I started off working out so hard that first week that I started my period and my face started working out! So you know that specifically for girls with PCOS, adrenaline turns into stress, and stress creative HAVOC in our bodies. Other than walking around that first week like a 110-year-old woman, I honestly do feel better physically. I'm struggling a little being back in my old class, because instead of being the one that goes the extra mile-or extra push-ups, I'm the one in the beginner side barely making it.

I haven't forgotten about my photo project, but it is really hard to take pictures of my acne-ridden face. I'm finding that fear is something that has to be conquered over and over again. I hope it gets easier, but so far it hasn't...And yes, that is in spite of there being a very small amount of people actually seeing/reading this blog. 

If you have words of encouragement, or even need some yourself, please please comment and say something! 


Tuesday, February 21, 2017


L-R: Bex, Candice, Clarissa, me, and Tanee

Sometimes girls need to celebrate each other. They need to celebrate that before and after and during romantic relationships, girlfriends are there to complain to, cheer on, and reminisce with. Right before Valentines I got together with some friends of mine for a Galentines outing. I told them to come prepared to take pictures, and they did! I loved that Bex donned her red skirt, she was the talk of the day!

Sunday, February 19, 2017

Fear is a road leading to boringville

About five years ago, a boyfriend told me that I put too much on my blog. "Too much" basically meaning I was being too honest and open. Thankfully, that boyfriend has been an ex for awhile, but I have had a hard time since then really just being open at the level I was before without discomfort. That boyfriend would also email me news stories about crimes committed in my area to prove to me that it wasn't safe for me to be going out at night. 
Remember, I live with a unique type of family, to give you an idea of what I mean: I walked into the laundry room to find two strange men washing their clothes and wasn't surprised. When I asked my dad who those men were, he said they were homeless and came back too late to get into the shelter (and would be spending the night.) Most of the people people were afraid of were at our house for supper on Sundays. Basically, has family has always lived with less fear than even is necessary at times. 
I said all that to say that I'm going back to the old me blogger. The one who didn't care about a lot of readers, but also didn't fear putting myself out there either. You know that movie "Me Before You"? It was one movie that I could watch a few more times, I cried in the theater. ANYWAY, the author of the book that movie was based on wrote another book that I'm reading now. It is called Paris For One (author is Jojo Moyes) and it's about a girl who never does anything without weighing the pros and cons. She is sensible, if sensible is the keyword for fearful. Then her worst nightmare happened, and her trip to Paris didn't go as planned. Through all the "mishaps" she learned to embrace the unknown! 
Do you know that I went to the post office on Valentines Day (looking a mess after a visit to the gym) and a guy standing near me packaging up his mail started a conversation and asked if I had a boyfriend for Valentines Day. I thought of how I probably looked, and was so embarrassed that I cut the conversation short so that he wouldn't ask for my number because I was sure it would be out of pity. Isn't that sad? I kept going back to it later in my mind, and realized that my fear of what he thought was almost surely worse than what he actually saw. And what if he had thought I looked at mess? Who cares? I don't even know him! I'm not traveling the road of fear to Boringville, my life is meant to be so much more than that. 

Friday, February 3, 2017

New Idea

When I was setting my New Year's resolutions I didn't actually plan on some of these things that I have now decided are really important to me to accomplish. At first I felt bad about it, and maybe a little guilty at the possibility that my goals I’d been so excited about just a couple months ago I wouldn't actually accomplish. I have sense come to the conclusion that one good thing about goals is that they can you know change and develop over time.

So there is this photo project that I want to do and it has to do with my hyper-pigmentation on my face. I found that I haven't really become less self-conscious about it, it's just that sometimes it's not as much at the forefront of my mind. Basically I'm used to it being there, but still don't like it and I still sometimes get the feeling that people are staring at me. For my birthday I want to do a special photo shoot for myself, and I have a friend who is a makeup artist and she will be able to do some really unique things. It’s all just living in my mind right now, but I'm working through the kinks. If you go through Pinterest you can find very fashion forward  pictures of freckled girls. If you look for something similar for acne scars or hyper-pigmentation (that isn’t just advertisement for getting rid of them) you won’t find a thing. I'm all for fading the marks on my face, but it takes time and I need to be able to look in the mirror until then. I literally refuse to wear makeup all the time.

Since I'm not sure that I have the financial wherewithal to get someone really experienced to take the photographs for me, I'm practicing self portraits. Actually my first one was today, and although it’s finally not blurry, it is completely uninteresting (in my opinion.) I’m going to keep practicing in different lights and locations though so I can and I decided I'm just going to keep practicing until the actual event come for the shoot so that I can see how it is in different light and get an idea for exactly what  get a better idea of what I want. I’m not comfortable sharing pictures like this, but it will help me to get used to putting myself out there. It’s not just for me, but for others who struggle with their flaws.
It's not that I was miserable, this was just like the 50th photo lol. 

Thursday, February 2, 2017

Thrift Store Finds and Dentist Visit

I'm trying to decide if I have the wherewithal to blog daily, or at least a few times a week; either way, I'm gonna try. I wanted to share this thrift store find because I was so excited when I discovered it benignly sitting on the shelf at Goodwill. A set of Downton Abbey DVDs! Each one cost me about $3 and I know it's a steal of a deal!
This happened on Tuesday when I had my first dentist appointment in five years. Yes, FIVE! I have so many positive memories of the dentist as a kid, as weird as that sounds. This dentist gave us a payment plan (even though it was in the ritzy part of town where we did people's lawn service) and back in that day we didn't have insurance. The staff was always easy to work with and they let us visit the prize box afterwards where we would pick out an airplane or bouncy ball and play with it outside in the parking lot. Anyway, back to the present: thankfully, I have no cavities (I was worried), but my gums were really sore until today! Worth it? Definitely.